We’re a dating site for geeks, nerds, and all the other people who love them. We know how hard it can be to find someone who understands your passion for [insert favorite fandom] or your desire for a long-term relationship with your favorite video game. And we also know that you don’t want to be just another number on a list of options—you want someone who gets you and loves you for exactly who you are.
That’s why we take the time to get to know each user personally and make sure they find the perfect match. We want everyone on our site to feel like they’re in a community where they can talk about what matters most in their lives, whether it’s an obscure anime series or the best way to build a D&D character.
So if you’re looking for love in all the right places—and maybe even some wrong ones—we’ve got your back!
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Have you heard? Being a geek is in!
In 2014, The New York Times declared “We’re All Nerds Now,” explaining “never before has the boundary between geek culture and mainstream culture been so porous,” referencing our growing attraction to traditionally geeky topics such as technology, superhero flicks, and so on.
When it comes to attraction towards other people, singles are generally drawn to those who self-identify as dorks. According to dating site Zoosk, an analyzation of 777,168 dating profiles and other data found that saying you’re a “dork” results in 74 percent more incoming messages than the average profile.
Oddly, saying you’re a “nerd” or “geek” doesn’t see the same response. The former results in a seven percent increase and the latter actually sees seven percent decrease. The lesson? Semantics are important! Oh, and don’t be scared to show off your smarts, either. Saying you’re “smart”, “educated” or “intelligent” can see 68% more messages in your inbox. Though “PhD” sees a 41 percent increase as well, it might be for a different reason (like your wallet size, perhaps).
Dating Tips for When You’re Feeling Socially Awkward
It’s important to know that most people are nervous when they date. Dating puts you out of your comfort zone and early dates can feel like a job interview.
“Give yourself permission to feel uncomfortable and don’t be too hard on yourself,” says Claire AH, CEO of Friend of a Friend Matchmaking. “Sometimes just acknowledging feeling awkward is the thing to do, just don’t do it a lot (no more than once or twice).”
If these social challenges seem insurmountable, AH advises you consider a dating coach. If that’s not in your budget, don’t fret. Many reputable coaches offer free services, stream live on Facebook and Instagram, offer free workshops over Zoom, or “ask me anything” threads on Twitter. AH also recommends you download the free audio app, Clubhouse, where dating industry professionals are constantly doing Q+As.
“Just stay away from pickup artists,” warns AH. “If you’re looking to meet someone for dating/a relationship (and treat them with respect in the process) that is not the way and they often prey on people who feel socially awkward.”
Let Your Geek Flag Fly
You should never be too afraid to be honest about your geeky interests. Being yourself is your greatest asset! They’re going to learn about who you are sooner or later, and you’re going to want to find someone who enjoys this important facet of who you are.
“The thing that I’d suggest to anyone with a lot of particular interests in any subculture (whether it’s geeky or not) is to include other aspects of yourself and your life as well,” says AH. “Talk about Stars — both Wars and Trek — but also talk about how you’re handy in the kitchen, your favorite place to hike, or your latest volunteer experience.” In other words: assure them that you’re more than your geeky interests. Give them a full picture.
6 Dating Apps for Dorks, Nerds, and Geeks to Use
All the stats we’ve been referencing come from Zoosk, so while they may not be a niche dating site for geeks, they at least acknowledge diversity in their membership. Given these stats, it’s clear that Zoosk likes their data. In fact, they use this information to consistently learn the actions of their user base via “behavioral matchmaking technology” to offer matches that keep getting better and better.
The website casts a wide net with 40,000,000 singles around the world where roughly three million messages are exchanged every single day (there’s bound to be a few geeks in there!). A particularly fun feature is the “Mega Flirt” function, where you can choose an automated message to break the ice, which Zoosk sends to potential matches on your behalf. It’s great for people who aren’t comfortable initiating conversation.
Try Zoosk here
Zoosk’s research found that gamers generally don’t fare well in the dating scene with the mere mention of “gamer” or “video games” leading to 60% fewer incoming messages. Thankfully, there’s a niche dating app called KIPPO that’s exclusively for gamers. While most niche dating sites leave much to be desired, KIPPO has won #1 best dating app of 2020 by Digital Trends, #1 dating app of 2020 by Mashable, and has been downloaded over 500,000 times.
The app uses a “card deck system” so that users can show their unique tastes in a fun, innovative way, and uses a Meyers-Briggs test to show your personality. Stripped of all these fun and geeky touches, the app functions similarly to Tinder, where you swipe left and right on profiles, so it shouldn’t be too hard to grasp.
Try KIPPO here
LGFDating touts itself as both “the most-trusted gamer dating site” and “the #1 dating site on Earth,” both of which are lofty claims. That said, the website did make Mashable’s Best Dating Site for Gamers list in 2019, so maybe they’re onto something.
Positioned as a community for “authentic gamer dating,” the website has a very simple interface that makes chatting and browsing quick and easy. If you’re looking for a community of like-minded gamers with a familiar experience to dating websites like Plenty of Fish, LGFDating is something you should definitely consider.
Try LGFDating here
Nerds are very passionate about what they like, and equally passionate about what they don’t. That’s why Hater is ideal for geeky singles. On Hater, users swipe to indicate how they feel about a growing list of topics, ranging all the way from Donald Trump to cilantro.
The app then leverages this intel to find your most compatible matches, which users can browse and swipe through. Once matched, members can initiate conversation with edgy icebreakers they’ve built into the app (think: Cards Against Humanity) to spare us from boring small talk.
Try Hater here
The idea of SoulGeek was conceived while in line at a Battlestar Galactica event, when its creator saw a cosplaying couple standing hand in hand. Wanting the same for himself, Soul Geek was born.
The dating site describes it as a “geek’s paradise bringing imagination and the sheer joy of fandom to the art of finding a mate.” It sounds like a stretch, but the dating site is quite unique with fun touches that encourages users to share their favorite content with the community, such as music and online videos. The website also lets members post personal blog entries and create forums which you can comment on and interact with.
Soul Geek even curates community outside of the website, providing local listing of geeks and nerd events.
Try Soul Geek here
If you’re a gay, bi, or trans man seeking someone special, Grindr is a no-brainer. It’s the most popular social app for queer men with 4.5 million daily users.
The app has a number of helpful filters that you can use to find a potential mate. An easy way to find your “tribe” — a to identify within the community — by selecting their “geek” option. Since the app is location-based, it will reveal all the geeks nearest you and you can then chat, exchange pictures, audio messages, video messages, and so on until your heart’s content!.
It should be noted that the app is primarily populated by individuals seeking sex, but there are still plenty of people looking for dates and something long-term.